Any one tried Internet personals for dating?

Phugg_Innay · Post by **Phugg_Innay** » October 18, 2003, 11:35 am

Title pretty much says it all. Just curiosity mainly , but also for personal gain. I'm not talking just chatting with a Moose and then meeting and fucking like rabbits , to never talk to or see the other person again.
I'll add more later , as you all do

Skogen · Post by **Skogen** » October 18, 2003, 2:00 pm

Phugg_Innay wrote:Title pretty much says it all. Just curiosity mainly , but also for personal gain. I'm not talking just chatting with a Moose and then meeting and fucking like rabbits , to never talk to or see the other person again.
I'll add more later , as you all do

I met my wife on match.com.

Abelard · Post by **Abelard** » October 18, 2003, 9:26 pm

nope.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » October 18, 2003, 9:37 pm

You don't really have anything to lose.

I mean say you put it up, maybe you get no responses...nothing lost.

Maybe you get a bunch responses you don't want to deal with after reading thier stuff or seeing thier picture....just don't reply.

Now whether or not they are cool in person, I can't help you there. But if they give you a response, they look cute, and thier profile is cool...I mean...why not meet them if they are local?

If your wondering, yes my profile is on-line somewhere but no I haven't responded to any e-mails (although I have gotten some). I didn't do it to look for a date, the profile went on-line as a byproduct of something else and I figured eh..might as well fill in the info.

This is your opportunity to flame me and my women skills....don't let this chance pass you by!

Kguku · Post by **Kguku** » October 18, 2003, 9:51 pm

You suck with women, now make us some crescent rolls!

Boogahz · Post by **Boogahz** » October 18, 2003, 11:48 pm

Yup, had experience with them, and not going back. Met too many women with issues. Stayed friends with a couple, but not worth it especially when you have to pay for something you don't know what you will get out of. Kind of like the lottery I guess.

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » October 19, 2003, 5:04 pm

Met my current, long term GF through Sparkmatch, which is free. It was fun and easy. Exchanging emails and phone calls allowed me to sort out and home in on exactley what I was looking for in a woman. I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I know 2 people that are married to people they met online.

Skogen · Post by **Skogen** » October 19, 2003, 10:47 pm

Fairweather said it...internet dating is a fucking goldmine. Any of you single people out there would be fools not to try it! Of course you won't have good luck right off the bat, but trust me, stick to it!

Boogahz · Post by **Boogahz** » October 19, 2003, 11:11 pm

Fairweather Pure wrote:Met my current, long term GF through Sparkmatch, which is free. It was fun and easy. Exchanging emails and phone calls allowed me to sort out and home in on exactley what I was looking for in a woman. I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I know 2 people that are married to people they met online.

Sparkmatch doesn't appear to be free unless I missed something skimming the front page.

Phugg_Innay · Post by **Phugg_Innay** » October 20, 2003, 8:46 am

I just noticed Skogs av , TOO friggin priceless. OK now onto my lil diddy.
I have had a personal up off and on for about a year and half. I have had a couple dates and made 2 lifelong friends. Then Poof out of nowhere I get a reply from a gal (which I havnt really had many as of late. Being a single dad is like having Lepracy I think. A lot of the replies were from people I would never be attracted to. Until last week

. So far it is going great, we have been emailing back and forth all day long , talking on the phone off and on all day. Well Friday she was going to be in town (actually next one over but close) So we talk a min and decide to meet up before our "planned date" on Sat. Well the writing and talking was great , but the in person spark was even greater. Both of us are "hooked" right now, I can only hope that it continues this way. Dat evening we both loaded up the kids (we both have 1 child each) and head off to the local Pumpkin Patch/ Corn Maze thingy. It was a total blast there. After that simple trip over to Mickey D's so the kids can have a late snack , well an hour and a half later we left with the biggest grins possible.
To sum it up , it took a long time, many failed attempts, many good experiences (just not the "click") Now we just have to wait and see how things go in the next few weeks , so far so good.

*edit* she is an ex smoker , and I still do , but have been wanting to quit. I think I have the hellp to stop

Siji · Post by **Siji** » October 20, 2003, 9:44 am

After trying a few the one and only I would recommend (and strongly at that) is American Singles. http://www.americansingles.com

Don't subscribe to any until you've been looking on them for several weeks. See which ones actually have different people when you check back. If there haven't been any new additions in 3 weeks, there's no point subscribing.

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » October 20, 2003, 9:52 am

Sparkmatch may no longer be free now, since I used it about 3.5 years ago.

I would have replies from between 6-12 women on a daily basis. I admit that I initiated each and every one of the conversations. This came at a time in my life where I was rather frustrated with lack of meeting any women, and having the women I did date had some pretty big issues or huge emotional baggage. I found myself compromising in my dating life. After a couple of dates where I was just plan fed up, I started looking online.

So, I searched the sites. SparkMatch is the only one I remember, but I did go through 3-4 other ones. I figured any woman that was hitting the sites was probably also having difficulties finding quality dating material in the usual single spots. Another big pluse, was hopefully the women would have an interest in the Internet, which was quite uncommon in my previous relationships.

SO!

I would find any woman in my age range (21-30), look at thier picture, read about thier interests, then shoot them an email. Apparently, I write really good opening emails. I got that compliment a lot. Now to share my embarrassment... I pretty much made a form "first email" and changed small things for each girl. I kinda felt bad, but I figured my first email was kinda like a resume. I also figured that each girl probably had a shitload of emails, so I had to distinguish myself. Apparently it worked. I found a very good formula. After the initial response, I always took things on a more personal approach.

You can learn a lot about a person just through emails. When the time came to make phone calls, I would always call them to foot the bill, but always give them my number as well. You'd be amazed how many woman are thinking some serial killer is going to lure them into a deathtrap or something. I was always very conscious of making the woman feel very informed and in control of the situation. Dates were arranged at a meeting spot where both of us felt comfortable.

I always asked for dates after just a few days of emails or phone conversations. I would say something like "Hey, I don't want a penpal and I don't want a friend. I have friends. I am contacting you because I am looking for an actual face to face date." You know, something along those lines to let them know my intentions. Smooth it up and draw it out so it isn't so direct, of course.

My requirements for my next serious relationship were quite large, but I was determined not to compromise. I ended up with my current GF after 3 weeks of Internet dating. We both ceremoniously dropped our SparkMatch accounts at the same time to show that we were happy with whom we found.

I cannot stress how fun and interesting I found Internet dating. I would be at work responding to emails from women who wanted to know more about me, or share something special about themselves. Overall, it was great and I have no regrets or bad stories to share.

Siji · Post by **Siji** » October 20, 2003, 10:08 am

Oh, as a follow-up.. unless you're rich or not meeting very many people - I strongly suggest you be creative in your first-date locations. Parks, beach, zoo, etc have worked nicely.. Not only is it different than what every other guy is offering but it's also easier on your wallet. And don't pick movie theaters.. what's the point of a first date if you're going to spend 2.5 hours not talking or paying attention to each other?

There ARE women that are only answering ads for the free nice dinner and comedy club or movie or whatever they get out of it. Think of it.. a free nice dinner every night that you want.. all she has to do is put up with boring conversation for an hour.

The cost adds up. If you meet 3-5 women a week for example, figure on average $30-50 minimum per date.. nah, if she's really interested in meeting someone for something other than a free meal, then she'll appreciate something different and thoughtful.

Remember.. women are getting flooded with emails like the previous post mentions.. don't get offended and don't be surprised if you don't get a fast or any response at all from most of the ones you send a message to. And also remember that there are some seriously crude and rude guys that they hear from. Don't be shocked at how cautious women are on these sites. They should be.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » October 20, 2003, 11:48 am

Boogahz wrote:Yup, had experience with them, and not going back. Met too many women with issues. Stayed friends with a couple, but not worth it especially when you have to pay for something you don't know what you will get out of. Kind of like the lottery I guess.

I meet lots of women with issues IRL. I wouldn't expect that to stop just because I met them over the internet instead. I mean it would be nice if it did....but I wouldn't expect it to.

Voronwë · Post by **Voronwë** » October 20, 2003, 12:01 pm

2 women in my group do it. one is pretty hot, the other is certainly attractive. so i think that a lot of 'normal' people do it.

before you say "bullshit the hot one bla bla bla". she has a kid, so she can't really go out into the 'singles scene' with great frequency, etc.

Phugg_Innay · Post by **Phugg_Innay** » October 20, 2003, 12:14 pm

Voro , Both her and I have kids. That was a major hurdle for both of us in just getting hits from ads. She is just too cool though , we are both extremely similar in our likes/dislikes and so forth. A major bunus is we are both extremely attracted to each others "look". I look like a badboy (but not one) and she looks kinda like the innocent badgirl. (she didnt post a pic on her add (so I never saw it till she sent me one), I on the other hand had many many compliments on mine. The one thing I made sure to do was put a pic of my son and I up there. He is the biggest part of my life and just wanted to portray that along with me.

Post by **Xouqoa** » October 20, 2003, 12:16 pm

Pilsburry wrote:I meet lots of women with issues IRL. I wouldn't expect that to stop just because I met them over the internet instead. I mean it would be nice if it did....but I wouldn't expect it to.

Lots of strippers have issues IRL. Comes with the territory.

edit: huh huh I said 'comes'

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » October 20, 2003, 3:08 pm

I'm not talking about strippers, I'm talking about your mom and your sister.

Gurugurumaki · Post by **Gurugurumaki** » October 20, 2003, 3:12 pm

Xouqoa wrote:
Pilsburry wrote:I meet lots of women with issues IRL. I wouldn't expect that to stop just because I met them over the internet instead. I mean it would be nice if it did....but I wouldn't expect it to.
Lots of strippers have issues IRL. Comes with the territory.

edit: huh huh I said 'comes'

Strippers are a necessary evil, god I love em.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » October 20, 2003, 3:19 pm

I would have expected any man here but guru to have posted that.

Guru, you hate visible G-strings and hard nipples...but you like strippers?

You caught me off guard there.

Legenae · Post by **Legenae** » October 20, 2003, 3:26 pm

haha Pils, I was about to post the same thing!

Sheryl · Post by **Sheryl** » October 20, 2003, 3:59 pm

i've never used a dating service, internet or otherwise, but i've seen both ends of the spectrum through friends and co-workers.

one of my closest friends was just frustrated one valentine's day - no date, no prospects - and threw up an ad. no photo or anything. she hit it off with a guy, they e-mailed, met, fell in love and were just married a couple of months ago. two fantastic people.

an old co-worker of mine, who just happens to be completely nuts, is a dating service regular. the picture she would post was a photo with both of her sons, and she actually cropped them OUT of the picture, which just disgusts me. she went through countless men, they'd meet her, she'd be a total pain in the ass during the date, give them a blow job, and they'd never call again. she's currently living with a guy she met on a dating service. she's lucky to have sex once a month, no kissing and he hasn't had a job since they met, so she's supporting him AND her two kids.

another co-worker, a guy, posted an ad at one point just to fuck with people. (he was actually trying to lure the first co-worker i mentioned into responding.) he found a picture of some rock hard surfer on a magazine site, the thing was black and white and airbrushed, sooo completely obviously not a snapshot, and he was swamped with e-mails. he just sort of played with the girls until he finally started feeling bad and took down the ad. there were some really bright women who contacted him - he was expecting a lot of desperate money-grubbers or something.

i also used to work with somebody who used the telephone dating services, but she'd just get a ton of dirty voice mails from guys saying what they wanted to to do her.

Gurugurumaki · Post by **Gurugurumaki** » October 20, 2003, 4:31 pm

Pilsburry wrote:I would have expected any man here but guru to have posted that.

Guru, you hate visible G-strings and hard nipples...but you like strippers?

You caught me off guard there.

Hum where to start. Lets start with the underwear. I mentioned in the previous thread how I told the girl it waws hanging out of her pants, and she fixed it and appreciated me commenting on it (so I think). The hard nipple thing, is about being visible in public (outside of a strip club).
I will give aq bit of history. I am going thru a divorce, and recently started hitting the town again...approx three months ago. While out I saw a guy I use to hang out with prior to being married (roughly 9 years ago), I married extremely young at 21. Well since hanging out with him, he knows most of the strippers in the greater Columbus area. We get in for free at most of them due to him (and me now). Most of the time they (anywhere from 2 to

go back to his place for after-after hours. Most of them have their own quirky stories, but who doesn't. I mean, I most likely wouldn't let any of them meet my kids, but they are sure as hell fun to hang out with. I would write more but eyes are watching.
I will tell a funny story approx a month ago. My friend gets a call from one of the strippers to meet her downtown. She informed him not to bring many people as they had rented a stretch limo and Tara Reid (American Pie girl) was with her. Well, my friend and I met them and partied all night. Tara even went to the strip club with us and back to my friends place. The funny thing about the story is she was on my flight to Denver that Sunday, and we chatted. She said that night was "fucking crazy" and yadda, yadda, yadda. And no I did not score with her, her boyfriend was there

Skogen · Post by **Skogen** » October 20, 2003, 5:09 pm

A few years ago when I was living in San Francisco, a gal I knew who was new to america from Japan, was interesting in meeting a guy from Japan. So, one night when she was over hanging out, we all decided to put up two ads on yahoo! personels. One serious one, and one fake one that read something like "slim, cute 23 year old girl from japan seeks well hung man to fulfill her wildest fantasies" just for the comedy of what we might get in reply. We put them both up on Sunday evening, and waited. She came over Monday after work, and we checked her email. Replies received for the real ad: 6. Replies received for the fake one: 112. Yes, they were hilarious, and some very disgusting. (one guy asked if she was into A lot of them had very precise measurementsof their dicks (and, thoughtfully, they put measurements for both flacid & hard), and yacked about all of the things there were into, and if she was, too. A lot of the things they asked about I don't even know what they mean/are! (for instance, wtf is a "squirter"......no, I don't think I want an answer.)

Aireanna Wyndcather · October 20, 2003, 6:25 pm

I dated this guy from a internet website. I put up my profile, got like 2 emails the whole time. Hmm maybe Im ugly. But anyway, we dated for like a year and a half, turns out, he liked to smack me around and emotionally abuse me. Yeah, I was scared to leave. Thats the whole thing with abused women. Wasted a whole year of my life and Im only 19. Bastard. Now, Im engaged and completely happy with my fiancee. I let my mother set me up with him. When all else fails, listen to your mother, she knows whats best

Toshira · Post by **Toshira** » October 20, 2003, 7:41 pm

Aireanna Wyndcather wrote:Im only 19. Now, Im engaged and completely happy with my fiancee. I let my mother set me up with him. When all else fails, listen to your mother, she knows whats best

Run fool, you are too young to be married.

Sirensa · Post by **Sirensa** » October 20, 2003, 8:07 pm

Toshira wrote:
Aireanna Wyndcather wrote:Im only 19. Now, Im engaged and completely happy with my fiancee. I let my mother set me up with him. When all else fails, listen to your mother, she knows whats best
Run fool, you are too young to be married.

Ditto!

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » October 20, 2003, 8:44 pm

Sirensa wrote:
Toshira wrote:
Aireanna Wyndcather wrote:Im only 19. Now, Im engaged and completely happy with my fiancee. I let my mother set me up with him. When all else fails, listen to your mother, she knows whats best
Run fool, you are too young to be married.
Ditto!

Ditto the ditto!

I suppose you'll learn the long drawn out way like everyone else. Anyone care to look up the statistics on marriages that last under the age of 20?

Found this on a quick search:

AGE
Item from the Smart Marriages Archive 11/12/02, titled "More teens are getting married - 11/12/02":
"Figures released last year from the National Center for Health Statistics
found nearly half of marriages in which the bride is 18 or younger end in
separation or divorce within 10 years. For brides 25 and older, half as many
marriages break up."
--From an Associated Press story printed as "More teens jumping the broom" in USA Today; "Sharp Increase in Marriages of Teenagers Found in 90's" in the NY Times; appeared in at least 30 papers the weekend of Nov. 9-10, 2002.

Aslanna · Post by **Aslanna** » October 21, 2003, 1:32 am

Aireanna Wyndcather wrote:I dated this guy from a internet website. I put up my profile, got like 2 emails the whole time. Hmm maybe Im ugly. But anyway, we dated for like a year and a half, turns out, he liked to smack me around and emotionally abuse me. Yeah, I was scared to leave. Thats the whole thing with abused women. Wasted a whole year of my life and Im only 19. Bastard.

That existed long before the Internet was invented by Al Gore.

Aireanna Wyndcather · October 21, 2003, 2:11 am

Oh trust me, its a long engagement. We both are not ready to quite jump into the wedding yet. We still have to finish school which will take a while. Hes going to school to be a vet and I dont even know what I want to major in so, its going to be quite a while.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » October 21, 2003, 2:18 pm

A long engagementis alright I guess. It's just like extreme dating.

It's a form of commitment w/o getting married. And you can move in together and relatives won't freak.

Chidoro · Post by **Chidoro** » October 21, 2003, 2:22 pm

Skogen wrote:A lot of the things they asked about I don't even know what they mean/are! (for instance, wtf is a "squirter"......no, I don't think I want an answer.)

Young people are a riot

Air, I hope you're right, the odds aren't good though. Probably because most people your age have no idea about what they want out of life. There's nothing wrong with that either. I envy you quite frankly

Chidoro · Post by **Chidoro** » October 21, 2003, 2:24 pm

Pilsburry wrote:It's a form of commitment w/o getting married. And you can move in together and relatives won't freak.

guess you never dated a catholic before, have you?

Siji · Post by **Siji** » October 21, 2003, 2:49 pm

Catholic girls are easy.

Gurugurumaki · Post by **Gurugurumaki** » October 21, 2003, 3:00 pm

Siji wrote:Catholic girls are easy.

Why yes they are.

Traz-KOE · Post by **Traz-KOE** » October 22, 2003, 7:53 pm

I worked for the company that owns the FriendFinder suite of personals sites (FriendFinder, Adult FriendFinder, OutPersonals, and a host of other such sites) a few years back. Here is the advice I walked away with:

1) Under no circumstances is it a good idea to pay for the service with a credit card that your spouse/partner will see if he/she does not already know you are using the service. When said spouse/partner calls up, we WILL tell them what services we provide, and then we WILL laugh at you once the call is over.

2) If you are too cheap to get a paid account, do not expect any reasonable amount of service. We have paying customers to deal with.

3) The problem is with your ISP, not the website. Don't call us because you can't get dialed in to see your porn.

4) If the site IS down, rest assured that we already know and are already working to fix it. You calling every 15 minutes to bitch won't help us fix it any faster.

5) Abuse of other members gets you banned. Don't bitch to me, 'cause I'm the one who probably witnessed your assholery and banned you in the first place.

6) Beware sneaky chat room moderators (see 5).

7) Under no circumstances should you use the FriendFinder suite of personals sites. It's just not worth the hassle.

Siji · Post by **Siji** » October 23, 2003, 9:01 am

Under no circumstances should you use the FriendFinder suite of personals sites. It's just not worth the hassle.

I would readily agree with that. Unless you just wanna see naked amature pr0n on Adult FriendFinder, there's not much point.

AmericanSingles is where it's at baby.

Aslanna · Post by **Aslanna** » November 1, 2003, 1:45 am

Here's one for the adventurous. It's free!

http://www.jailbabe4free.com/

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