Partner Preference Poll PPP

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » June 4, 2003, 2:42 pm

How would you rank what attracts you most to a potential partner using the following four choices?

Appearance
Personality
Intelligence
Similar Interests

I wanted to make a poll where you ranked 1 through 4 but there's too many damn combinations so you can rank them yourselves in a response after selecting your top choice.

Mine would be Personality, Intelligence, Similar Interests, Appearance

Sirensa · Post by **Sirensa** » June 4, 2003, 2:50 pm

I voted personality although it's way too hard to limit it to just one dominant factor.

It's far easier for me to say what I don't like than what I do like.

Ooga[foh] · Post by **Ooga[foh]** » June 4, 2003, 2:53 pm

I'm sort of different when it comes to taste in women. I'm a pretty trendy guy I guess, I wear nice clothes most of the time, prefer khaki's over jeans etc. I like to be well presented, it's something that's important to me. I'm super laid back, listen to rap and tend to find ways to bring attention to myself. The women that really do it for me are usually exact opposites. I like em shy, quiet and generally prefer us to have nothing in common. When two people that have almost no like interests and you make that possible love connection, it's damn cool. I've just never seen the fun in dating someone that is so much like yourself? What fun is life if you don't go out and learn new things and involve yourself with different crowds? You have to be a pretty tolerable person I suppose, but right now the girl I've started talking to is a pink haired punk rocker who listens to music I've never heard of in my entire life.

I can't wait for this to develop, it will be interesting for sure.

My list though: Personality, Appearance, Intelligence and dead last, Similar Interests.

I like my girls book smart, but a bit naive honestly. I joke around a lot and I really enjoy a woman who is super gullible. I like a good lookin gal like the next man, but I've dated enough stuck up bitches to trade some of the curves for a great person.

Calixte · Post by **Calixte** » June 4, 2003, 3:12 pm

Intelligence
Personality
Appearance
Similar Interests

I love intelligent guys. Conversation is important in a relationship, and a guy who can convey his thoughts and feelings articulately is extremely attractive and important to me.

I put personality before appearance because I've met guys I wasn't attracted to at first, but because their personalities were so great, they became attractive to me.

Appearance isn't everything, but certainly I'd like to be physically attracted to the person I am dating.

Similar interests are important too, but you don't have to have everything in common to have a successful relationship. And, after being with someone for a while, you tend to develop new interests *together*.

Aslanna · Post by **Aslanna** » June 4, 2003, 3:13 pm

OMG need to add Money!

Voronwë · Post by **Voronwë** » June 4, 2003, 3:15 pm

bling bling!

masteen · Post by **masteen** » June 4, 2003, 3:27 pm

Calixte wrote:Intelligence
Personality
Appearance
Similar Interests

I love intelligent guys. Conversation is important in a relationship, and a guy who can convey his thoughts and feelings articulately is extremely attractive and important to me.

I put personality before appearance because I've met guys I wasn't attracted to at first, but because their personalities were so great, they became attractive to me.

Appearance isn't everything, but certainly I'd like to be physically attracted to the person I am dating.

Similar interests are important too, but you don't have to have everything in common to have a successful relationship. And, after being with someone for a while, you tend to develop new interests *together*.

This coming from a girl who's dating a Teutonic poster child. Admit it, hon, you just love his tight butt!

Calixte · Post by **Calixte** » June 4, 2003, 3:32 pm

masteen wrote:
Calixte wrote:Intelligence
Personality
Appearance
Similar Interests

I love intelligent guys. Conversation is important in a relationship, and a guy who can convey his thoughts and feelings articulately is extremely attractive and important to me.

I put personality before appearance because I've met guys I wasn't attracted to at first, but because their personalities were so great, they became attractive to me.

Appearance isn't everything, but certainly I'd like to be physically attracted to the person I am dating.

Similar interests are important too, but you don't have to have everything in common to have a successful relationship. And, after being with someone for a while, you tend to develop new interests *together*.
This coming from a girl who's dating a Teutonic poster child. Admit it, hon, you just love his tight butt!

Duh. It's all about the phat azz.

Ennia · Post by **Ennia** » June 4, 2003, 3:35 pm

if I had to start dating now:

interests
personality
intelligence
appearance

Drolgin Steingrinder · Post by **Drolgin Steingrinder** » June 4, 2003, 3:36 pm

Intelligence / Personality
Appearance
Similar interests

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » June 4, 2003, 3:55 pm

So far this poll is excellent news for ugly people!

I put personality over intelligence although the smarter the better. There has to be a hint of personality to go along with intelligence for a long term relationship to work for me.

As for similar interests, a few in common is a good thing while being a clone of your partner would wear thin fast.

I probably should have added imagination/creativity to the list as well.

Ennia · Post by **Ennia** » June 4, 2003, 4:03 pm

heh I put interests first because right now me and my hubby are totally opposite in our interests and that makes for a lot of time not together, or together but not really together. Like he's going fishing, I can go too but I'll sit on the shore and read book or whatever.
He likes movies but if they even hint of boredom he'll fall asleep lol
He likes to fix things and hates computer stuff, I can't live without a phone and computer.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 4, 2003, 4:04 pm

Personality

The other 3 are all like tied for 2nd place...I can't really put them in order.

Interests, eh, I like new things and I'm easy-going...I'd probably just like what she likes. So long as it's not formal stuff like art exhibits and museums.

Intelligence, well average or better is fine....I prefer logical thinkers and problem solvers over book smarts (IE memorizatin skills which is 90% of what school teaches you).

Appearance, it's important that she is average looking or better, I won't date a girl I am not physically attracted to...not when we could just be friends. But beyond average if she has the right personality...it's all good.

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Now what type of girls draw my attention? Attractive ones.....that's all you can see at first until you talk to them.

What type of girls do I chase after? None, I am way too shy to talk to girls unless I know them already through repeated exposure.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 4, 2003, 4:08 pm

Reading your last reply winnow I think we have different definitions for the 4 qualities.

You say they should have atleast a hit of personality....everyone has a personality...do you mean personality as like "outgoing and charismatic"?

Also you say creativity/imagination should have been another.....I put that under intelligence....it's just one of the many factors in intelligence. Although I guess you could say it's a function of personality as well, a person who gives up easily will have less creativity in thier problem solving.

rhyae · Post by **rhyae** » June 4, 2003, 4:13 pm

Intel/personality/sense of humor are equal
appearance
interests

masteen · Post by **masteen** » June 4, 2003, 4:15 pm

Calixte wrote:Duh. It's all about the phat azz.

I miss it...

I mean him!

Zamtuk · Post by **Zamtuk** » June 4, 2003, 4:18 pm

Its really a tie between intelligence and personality. I find it hard to deal with someone who is dumber than a sack of shit. Interests are at the bottom of the list. I actually find it better to find somone with different interests. That can enable you to broaden your senses and actually try new things. (well ok, somethings

)

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » June 4, 2003, 4:30 pm

Fun
Confident
Unique
Aggressive

Those are my 4, in that order. Intelligence is objective. It wouldn't matter if my GF had an IQ of 190, perfect SIT scores, and a PHD in who-gives a fuck. That is inconsequential in day to day life. Sure, I wouldn't date a valley girl, but who would?

Too many women are boring, stereotypical, and dull. I can only imagine that women think the same thing of men. I want a woman who challanges me, mystifies me, and who accepts all of my flaws. She better not pick fights, play games, or nit-pick. If I see early signs of that noise, I'm out like Shout, without a doubt. She also needs to be sexual-fucking-DYNAMITE that will not only do the things I want her to do, but love every minute of it.

Any woman that takes a "Damn the torpedeos" and non-apologetic outlook on life is bound to be my type. I'll honestly never settle for anything less again.

Vaemas · Post by **Vaemas** » June 4, 2003, 4:33 pm

I refuse to nail myself down to a certain "type" of person. To be perfectly honest, the woman I end up getting to know much better are women I never would have picked out for myself in the first place. Things just seem to "click" especially when I'm not actively looking to meet someone.

Soreali · Post by **Soreali** » June 4, 2003, 4:49 pm

Drolgin Steingrinder wrote:Intelligence / Personality
Appearance
Similar interests

What the swede said.

Karae · Post by **Karae** » June 4, 2003, 4:50 pm

Intelligence
Appearance
Personality
Similar Interests

Though the difference is small if it exists at all...

Aabidano · Post by **Aabidano** » June 4, 2003, 5:37 pm

Personality would probably be number 1, followed by intelligence.

But then I've been married forever, what the hell would I know.

It's all about the boobies...

murr · Post by **murr** » June 4, 2003, 5:37 pm

My dilemma is that for me, similar interests is roughly equivalent to intelligence

haha.. I recently met a girl who loves the same movies/music/etc etc etc as me, which tells me she's a very intelligent girl.
Girls who love Kevin Smith are the win.

Kylere · Post by **Kylere** » June 4, 2003, 5:37 pm

Intelligence and KNOWLEDGE ( The first without the second is valueless)
Sexual Compatibility
Shared Interests
Physical Appearance
Emotional Stability

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » June 4, 2003, 6:11 pm

Fairweather Pure wrote:Fun
Confident
Unique
Aggressive

Those are my 4, in that order. Intelligence is objective. It wouldn't matter if my GF had an IQ of 190, perfect SIT scores, and a PHD in who-gives a fuck.

Exactly. Intelligence is objective. I didnt say they needed a high IQ or GPA. Quit fucking up my poll!

Your comment about intelligence doesnt apply as I didnt specify what intelligence was...I left it open ended : ) There are high school drop outs smarter than most of the people on this board. Degrees and statistics don't define intelligence to me.

I realize that limiting my catagories to 4 requires further explanation behind the choices. Fun, confident and Unique are all desirable characteristics for me as well as are imaginative and creative.

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » June 4, 2003, 6:13 pm

But fucking up someone's poll is half the fun of having polls to begin with!

Lalanae · Post by **Lalanae** » June 4, 2003, 6:43 pm

Similar interests could mean more than just things you like or like to do. What about a similar life philosophy? I could never be involved with someone who believes in God or any socially conservative notion. A person who thinks like me is what I'm attracted to,

Beyond that:

Personality
Intelligence
Similar Interests (like hobbies & such)
Appearance

Money and Sex are somewhere around appearance. They are areas that mean essentially nothing in the big picture, when you're old, when you are dealing with tragedy. Those things can disappear so I don't care to make them a determining factor in choosing a life partner.

Dula Allazaward · Post by **Dula Allazaward** » June 4, 2003, 7:35 pm

Ok, I must come from a different age cause when I was dating it was look first ask questions later.

Appearance its what caught my eye to the potential..well you know
Personality they had to have this to keep me interested
Intelligence If they didnt have this there was no relationship
Similar interest Like cally said you develop your own together

But then again I guess it depends on what your looking for, a one night fling or a relationship. When I found my soul mate so to speak, I wasnt looking for a relationship. I just wanted to live life to its fullest and have a good time. 14 years later (to this day) it was the looks that got me, but the intelligence and the personality that kept him around.

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » June 4, 2003, 7:48 pm

Lalanae wrote: A person who thinks like me is what I'm attracted to

A person that may not necessarily agree with you but can understand and appreciate the reasons behind your views would qualify as similar interests in my extremely vague catagories : ) That would increase the value of similar interests for me but I tend to group that with intelligence as well so I'll leave my order alone.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 4, 2003, 8:03 pm

Religion is a function included in personality and somewhat in intelligence.

I could go into this more in detail in PM's but for the sake of this individual post....I'll do it short.

Intelligence here is one of a limited 4 factors. That being said we have to take it to mean "intellectually compatable" which means if your a scientific thinker...logical thinker whatever...for him to be intellectually compatible he would have to be that also...and not rely as much on faith. So a religious fanatic would not be intellectually compatible.

They would probably also not be compatible personality-wise, because different people draw out different personalities from the same person. In your case your going to draw out the "bible thumper", and he will try and force religion down your throat...so your personality types won't mesh...but a religous girl won't draw that out of him, so he is still a viable person in the arena.

Last but not least, a religious guy will have interests like "going to church" and probably not "going to a rave party" so your interests will differ somewhat also.

So over all given the 4 factors Winnow listed....if you put them in order....that guy won't slip through the cracks anyway even if we don't give it it's own option.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 4, 2003, 8:23 pm

Dula tells it like it is!
I respect that.

I think you slightly misunderstood the poll though.

I took it to mean more of a "you meet someone over time in a group of friends, you know them inside and out, make your educated decision"

You listed your order with an explanation that makes me think your looking at it from a perspective of how you walk into a bar and there are 100's of guys to choose from and you need to weed the candidates down.

In which case I agree with you 100% BTW. That first cut has to be on appearance, because you have nothing else to go on. The hot person can be a bitch/asshole....same with the ugly person. So logically....why would you investigate the ugly person in further detail first?

Actually reminds me of a sketch where they gave this hot girl a really screwed up nose etc because she was curious why ugly people were always mean (which is false, but this was comedy not a scientific study) and at the end of it after everyone treated her like shit, she was mean too. I don't know what that has to do with the discussion but I just was reminded ofit..anyone know what that was from? Was it SNL?

Canelek · Post by **Canelek** » June 4, 2003, 10:03 pm

Since my interests lie outside of many many circles, I always am stoked to meet a woman that I can have a great conversation with right off the bat. Similar interests, music being a big example, can really enhance the situation.

"Stuff in common" is pretty damn cool--at least if the dating doesn't work out, I have a new friend I can go to shows with, etc... Musician women I totally fall for as well.

Oh, the rest...

Personality
Appearance
Intelligence

Fallanthas · Post by **Fallanthas** » June 5, 2003, 2:54 am

1. Grooming- If a woman doesn't think enough of herself to maintain a decent level of fitness and cleanliness, big turn off

2. Intelligence- I don't mean knowledge here, I mean the ability to apply thought and logic to a problem and arrive at an outcome

3. Personality- can you shrug it off when necessary? Can you laugh rather than cry? Can you stand on your own and still enjoy other peoples company?

4. Appearance- less rather than more. Glitz doesn't interest me. Women who are attractive not wearing makeup, wearing jeans and a t-shirt do

Jezdziec Znikad · Post by **Jezdziec Znikad** » June 5, 2003, 3:17 am

LOL...I put appearance first. Guess it serves me right. My last girlfriend was a hottie but she turned out to be a shitty person.

Dregor Thule · Post by **Dregor Thule** » June 5, 2003, 8:49 am

Tough question really. Personality is a huge factor, the most important one for me, but I won't deny appearance is usually what'll catch the attention for starters. Intelligence is almost the same as personality IMO. I'm not going to be attracted to a ditzy, airhead personality. I want someone I can talk to, someone who'll engage my mind and through just talking with them make me a better person... of course, maybe I set unrealistic goals.

Drolgin Steingrinder · Post by **Drolgin Steingrinder** » June 5, 2003, 9:00 am

It can happen, Dregor.

Dregor Thule · Post by **Dregor Thule** » June 5, 2003, 9:04 am

Maybe in Daneland!

Kelgar · Post by **Kelgar** » June 5, 2003, 10:13 am

Felt a necessity to break it down a tad.

First impression:
1. Appearance
2. Intelligence
3. Personality
4. Interests

Face it, men respond most to visual stimuli. Appearance is genetically ingrained to be the very first thing we'll take note of before we move on to the rest.

Afterwards:
1. Personality
2. Intelligence
3. Appearance
4. Interests

To regurgitate was was previously said, looks will get you in the door, the rest will determine if you stay or get das boot.

Midnyte_Ragebringer · Post by **Midnyte_Ragebringer** » June 5, 2003, 10:26 am

appearance
intelligence
personality
interests

yeah baby!

Xzion · Post by **Xzion** » June 5, 2003, 10:44 am

well you kinda need all of them...without personallity intellegence and apperance its just not worth it at all, depending on what kind of relationship you want or for how long
id say personaliy-appearance-intellegence-similar intirest

Lor · Post by **Lor** » June 5, 2003, 11:55 am

The broad with the biggest Bewbs wins every time!!!

Muhahahahahahahahaha!

But seriously.... personality, appearance, Smarts and interests

Lexien · Post by **Lexien** » June 5, 2003, 1:06 pm

Appearance
Intelligence
Personallity
Interests.

I don't understand how you people put something other then Appearance first...

Let's say you go to a bar and meet a girl there what is your first impression on?...

APPEARANCE, and if she looks the part you go in and try to know a bit more about that person to see if shes worth a shot. (Keep in mind that taste is relative. What i find attractive may not be attractive to you)

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 5, 2003, 1:40 pm

Lexien wrote:I don't understand how you people put something other then Appearance first...

Let's say you go to a bar and meet a girl there what is your first impression on?...

APPEARANCE, and if she looks the part you go in and try to know a bit more about that person to see if shes worth a shot. (Keep in mind that taste is relative. What i find attractive may not be attractive to you)

In a bar ya, appearance has to be first. Anyone who says otherwise is full of shit...because you can't know the rest just by looking at a stranger.

But I took this poll to mean under the ideal circumstance of actually knowing the women.....say like you worked with them for a long time, went to school together, lived on the same block...

In otherwords I took this to mean "optimal woman quality mix" rather than "real world filters"..if that makes any sense...

Lexien · Post by **Lexien** » June 5, 2003, 1:42 pm

Ok it does make sense...

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » June 5, 2003, 1:50 pm

Lexien wrote:
I don't understand how you people put something other then Appearance first...

Let's say you go to a bar and meet a girl there what is your first impression on?...

Perhaps I should clarify. This isn't a question about who you would pick up on at a bar. It's what attracts you to a person after knowing them for at least a short while...even a day or two.

Pils had one of his typical responses that made me cringe:

Pilsburry wrote:
I won't date a girl I am not physically attracted to...not when we could just be friends.

ROFL

Pils to a girl friend: "I really like you. You are everything I want in a woman...but damn you're ugly! Lets be friends while I look for someone like you but better looking."

Ever think that the women you like are thinking the same about you Pils? He's nice but damn he's ugly! They may be thinking, "lets be friends or at least friendly enough so I get free drinks." I supposed it's all relative to what you find above average.

Lexien · Post by **Lexien** » June 5, 2003, 2:13 pm

Winnow wrote: ROFL

Pils to a girl friend: "I really like you. You are everything I want in a woman...but damn you're ugly! Lets be friends while I look for someone like you but better looking."

Ever think that the women you like are thinking the same about you Pils? He's nice but damn he's ugly! They may be thinking, "lets be friends or at least friendly enough so I get free drinks." I supposed it's all relative to what you find above average.

That's just wrong. You are just pushing it to the extreme.

But your point was valid it does work both ways...

Toshira · Post by **Toshira** » June 5, 2003, 2:25 pm

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