Did you cheat!

Lynxe · Post by **Lynxe** » May 31, 2003, 3:32 pm

This should be interesting!

Notes:
- For the purpose of this poll, if you have to split hairs about whether an act was considered "cheating" or not - it was.
- the comments in the () are jokes!

Xyun · Post by **Xyun** » June 1, 2003, 3:07 am

I was together with my last girlfriend almost exactly 6 months. I never cheated but she made the mistake once. She felt worse about it then I did. What can I say, I'm a forgiving person when it comes to hot ass wild chicks.

On the other hand, when it comes to the collective imbecile that is VV, forgiveness is the needle in the haystack.

Aaeamdar · Post by **Aaeamdar** » June 1, 2003, 4:12 am

More than 10 years, never cheated.

That said, I have had sex with several people since the start of my relationship, mostly men, some women.

It's not cheating if it is permitted (and certainly not cheating if shared) and I can say with complete confidence that if we did not permit each other to fuck others, I would not have.

emmer · Post by **emmer** » June 1, 2003, 5:09 am

Post by **Sylvus** » June 1, 2003, 5:27 am

I've never cheated on anyone that I was officially with, but for whatever reason most of the relationships I have ever been in have started with the girl being in a relationship that I didn't know about. Oops.

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » June 1, 2003, 11:47 pm

My GF and I have shared women. That's not cheating, right?

Akaran_D · Post by **Akaran_D** » June 2, 2003, 12:26 am

Together less than 2 years, never cheated.
No sex either.. waiting till marriage. (and f u if you think that's easy)

Rivera Bladestrike · Post by **Rivera Bladestrike** » June 2, 2003, 12:29 am

Two years and no sex? Ouch, I feel bad for you man.

Akaran_D · Post by **Akaran_D** » June 2, 2003, 12:36 am

Living together, too.

I have got the nastiest twitch you'll ever see..

Laliana · Post by **Laliana** » June 2, 2003, 12:53 am

Damn..when you getting married?

Winnow · Post by **Winnow** » June 2, 2003, 2:50 am

Sylvus wrote:I've never cheated on anyone that I was officially with, but for whatever reason most of the relationships I have ever been in have started with the girl being in a relationship that I didn't know about. Oops.

Whoa! Oh Sylvus, nm : ) I know what ya mean.

Laliana · Post by **Laliana** » June 2, 2003, 2:55 am

Winnow wrote:
Sylvus wrote:I've never cheated on anyone that I was officially with, but for whatever reason most of the relationships I have ever been in have started with the girl being in a relationship that I didn't know about. Oops.
Whoa! Oh Sylvus, nm : ) I know what ya mean.

You guys are meeting the wrong girls...

Akaran_D · Post by **Akaran_D** » June 2, 2003, 10:31 am

After I graduate college. o.0
Couple more years.

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » June 2, 2003, 10:34 am

So, what happens when finally you do it and you're totally, absolutely, sexual opposites? I mean, everyone is so different... Sexuality is such a hard thing to learn and develope.

Hats off to you for doing the waiting thing. I wouldn't go that route for all the tea in Yoro.

Akaran_D · Post by **Akaran_D** » June 2, 2003, 10:49 am

Can we just agree on the fact it's not my decision?

And beleive me Fair, I have had that thought hundreds of thousands of times.

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » June 2, 2003, 10:56 am

Can we just agree on the fact it's not my decision?

Haha. Yeah, I pretty much assumed it wasn't your decision. As stereotypical as it is, it never is a man's choice

Try not to take this to heart, but that's all the more reason it sounds like big, huge, fucking warning siren sounding at deafening levels 2 feet from your head. If it's already a tender subject, you got a long, bumpy road ahead of you my friend. But then again, you know your situation better than I do. I just wish you the best of luck. That situation dosen't seem to ever work out 100% in the favor of both parties, if you know what I mean...

Akaran_D · Post by **Akaran_D** » June 2, 2003, 10:59 am

I do, and thanks for the heads up m'friend.
And I do appericate the warnings. =)

Voronwë · Post by **Voronwë** » June 2, 2003, 11:14 am

less than 3 years, no cheating, having sex

Trek · Post by **Trek** » June 2, 2003, 11:16 am

12 years, never cheated, have sex, mostly with myself

Shaerra · Post by **Shaerra** » June 2, 2003, 11:40 am

Women need a reason to have sex.
Men just need a place.

-Billy Crystal

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 2, 2003, 12:52 pm

I don't even understand cheating.

I can't see myself cheating on someone I care about, there is too much to lose.

And if I don't care about the person, why cheat? I can just break up with them and go out with the other person. If you don't care about the person than your wasting both your time by continuing the relationship anyway.

Than again by cheating I'm interpretting that to mean sex. If your talking a quick kiss I could see a slip like that.

Sex is not accidental, and it's usually not that spontaneous....you work up to it. You hold hands, kiss, rub on eachother....and you have to go some place private. Than you get undressed, and hopefully pull out some protection. You have a lot of time to think about what your doing.

A woman can just lean in and kiss you unexpectedly, in like 1 second. Or you might have a 1 second brain fart and kiss her....but sex requires a willing participant and I'd say a minimum of 5 mins prep time.

Making out, or multiple kisses...now that's a different story. It's not as offensive as sex, but again...you have time to think about what your doing.

Not saying I wouldn't have a problem with a quick kiss...just it's a problem I can see myself forgiving someone for. I'd struggle hard if my girlfriend was to make out for say 5 minutes with some guy not sure how I would decide that, and if she fucked him, I'd move on with my life...without her.

Lynxe · Post by **Lynxe** » June 2, 2003, 1:21 pm

I 100% agree with Fairweather on that point. I believe in being with someone who is compatible with me in all "relationship" areas. Sex is an important one of them. However, like Fairweather said you know your own situation and hats off to your choice!

Note: For the purpose of the poll, if you and your significant other have an "open" relationship, it is not cheating unless you have strayed from any boundries you set for each other!

Ooga[foh] · Post by **Ooga[foh]** » June 2, 2003, 1:24 pm

If cheating back in the day in high school counts, then guilty as charged.

Ebumar · Post by **Ebumar** » June 2, 2003, 2:04 pm

Than again by cheating I'm...

THEN

THEN THEN THEN

FUCKING CHRIST

Post by **Sylvus** » June 2, 2003, 2:11 pm

And then?

Fairweather Pure · Post by **Fairweather Pure** » June 2, 2003, 2:53 pm

NOANDTHEN!!!

Sabek · Post by **Sabek** » June 2, 2003, 3:52 pm

I get mental pictures of Bill Clinton when Pillsbury rambles on about what is and isn't cheating.

What does the word 'is' mean?

cid · Post by **cid** » June 2, 2003, 4:06 pm

15 minutes of something new and different is not worth loosing a lifetime of happiness.

Been married 8 years together for 10. Never cheated.

Karae · Post by **Karae** » June 2, 2003, 4:09 pm

Akaran_D wrote:Together less than 2 years, never cheated.
No sex either.. waiting till marriage. (and f u if you think that's easy)

The baby Jesus and I shed a tear of sympathy for you.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 2, 2003, 4:46 pm

Ya, if the other person in the relationship gave you permission, it's not cheating.

Cheating is when you break the rules.

When you sit down to a drinking game.....some places have blanket "no clothing rules" in place, some don't. If you wish to keep your clothes on get that clear before you sit down at the table....not when someone states "whenever someone says "drink" they remove an article of clothing".

You just have to agree to a rule set before you play.

Akaran_D...it's cool your going to wait for her, I think I would also....most would not. But keep in mind her rule book she handed you is basically blank which means rules will be made as you play....that's usually risky business in most card or board games. She might even decides she hates the game....

When I was a kid was was all into the saving myself for marriage, that lasted until I was 14 and my GF wanted some action. I was a very weak willed boy back then heh....anyway, I'm not upset I compromised my ideals in that case....it's nice to know for sure what I like, and I like girls and I like sex. Otherwise I could be 30 and find out I have a super small sex drive, or I like cock....in which case marriage to a female is probably not something I should have done.

Sometimes · Post by **Sometimes** » June 2, 2003, 8:25 pm

I'd really love to see the final poll graphed out.

Forthe · Post by **Forthe** » June 2, 2003, 8:36 pm

Like I'm going to admit it on a public board!

Akaran she better give some oh-my-jezuz head. Poor fucker.

Traz-KOE · Post by **Traz-KOE** » June 2, 2003, 10:06 pm

6-year anniversary today, quite faithful. =)

noel · Post by **noel** » June 2, 2003, 10:18 pm

Sometimes wrote:I'd really love to see the final poll graphed out.

Do you mean like the bar graph that appears next to the poll when you vote on it?

I don't cheat.

Akanae · Post by **Akanae** » June 2, 2003, 10:35 pm

where is the together for over 3 years, never cheated and still having lots of sex option?

Fredonia Coldheart · Post by **Fredonia Coldheart** » June 2, 2003, 11:26 pm

Wow - reading this made me count it out and hubby and I will hit 15 years of marriage this summer.

I haven't even kissed anyone else since the day I met him.

Lynxe · Post by **Lynxe** » June 3, 2003, 7:43 am

Cyber cheating? Not my thing but a ton of EQers do it...

Chidoro · Post by **Chidoro** » June 3, 2003, 11:38 am

Akaran_D wrote:Together less than 2 years, never cheated.
No sex either.. waiting till marriage. (and f u if you think that's easy)

Ouch, how will you know if she's any good? Pretty big thing to jump into blindly

Fallanthas · Post by **Fallanthas** » June 3, 2003, 11:59 am

Just celebrated our fifteenth anniversary, never cheated, sex every Wednesday whether we feel like it or not!

Drolgin Steingrinder · Post by **Drolgin Steingrinder** » June 3, 2003, 12:32 pm

15 out of 117 votes say yes, they have cheated...

vn_Tanc · Post by **vn_Tanc** » June 3, 2003, 12:40 pm

Akaran_D wrote:
Together less than 2 years, never cheated.
No sex either.. waiting till marriage. (and f u if you think that's easy)

Ouch, how will you know if she's any good? Pretty big thing to jump into blindly

Fuckin A. I knew a guy who was engaged to a girl for 3 years. She didn't believe in sex before marriage. Turns out she didn't believe in sex after marriage either. Eventually all the guy's hair fell out (ALL of it) and he left her.
There's a moral in there somewhere!

Post by **Sylvus** » June 3, 2003, 12:41 pm

And notice how the trend goes. The longer people are together, the higher percentage of people responding to the poll that have cheated.

Ennia · Post by **Ennia** » June 3, 2003, 1:22 pm

Hats of too you and GF Akaran, hope none of you regret this later.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 3, 2003, 1:40 pm

Lynxe that's a good question.....Is cyber cheating?

I guess I would consider it cheating, although there is no physical contact....dirty talk is something you should probably limit to people your currently in a relationship with.

Besides a few EQ'rs have lost girlfriends/wives to other EQr's and it started via cyber.....

Kilmoll the Sexy · Post by **Kilmoll the Sexy** » June 3, 2003, 2:21 pm

My wife was a virgin and would not have sex before marriage. Not even a blowjob for the year and a half we dated/were engaged. I can say that I was very suprised at the oral talent she has. I thought that would take a while for her to get down.

It was not really a choice I would make and I think it is a bit silly, but I respect her choices and convictions.

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » June 3, 2003, 2:43 pm

And on the bright side, you know your the best lay she ever had and the chances of her having an STD were slim. heh.

I don't think I would recommend to anyone hold off until marriage, but I respect it. I'm more of the mindset of sex before marriage is OK, but casual sex is not....I don't think it's safe to fuck around.

Adelrune Argenti · Post by **Adelrune Argenti** » June 3, 2003, 2:56 pm

Fallanthas wrote:Just celebrated our fifteenth anniversary, never cheated, sex every Wednesday whether we feel like it or not!

Only once a week? Eep. Sorry, man.

Damson · Post by **Damson** » June 3, 2003, 5:59 pm

My old BF moved out of state in Jan and we didn't techincally break up. I am dating a new guy and don't consider this cheating, but one of the guys that I know says that it is. I can't really count it cheating when I have not talked to him on the phone or in person in about six months.

Traz-KOE · Post by **Traz-KOE** » June 3, 2003, 8:55 pm

vn_Tanc wrote:Fuckin A.

Fuck a 'B', it's got two holes.

Hmm, would that be cheating?

Lynxe · Post by **Lynxe** » June 4, 2003, 1:41 pm

Drolgin said

15 out of 117 votes say yes, they have cheated...

17 out of 127 now Drol, and 26 of those don't count as a "yes" or a "no" (talk to the hand!).

:vv_devangel:

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