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Kyoukan, you dumb cunt. Can't resist shadowing my every post with that idiotic shit soup that spews from your mouth, can you?kyoukan wrote:only the kind that involves anal bleeding and threats that mommy and daddy will die if they ever tattle.Stragi wrote:Atokal knows a lot about breakups
Even a novice knows that most kids get mad sometimes and would not care about their parents dying. It works much better if you threaten a pet or a favorite teddy bear. Dumbass bitch.
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Glad to see hooked on fonics is working for you. I;m not the one crying in the picture.Dregor Thule wrote:Did you just say you crammed a can of tuna up your asshole?Pedokal wrote:Yeah, you'd be crying too if I crammed my tuna can up YOUR cinnamon ring.noel wrote:This thread is destined for Archives!
Anyone else find it funny that Atokal's avatar features a crying baby?
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So you shoved your tuna can up a baby's ass? Jesus dudePedokal wrote:Glad to see hooked on fonics is working for you. I;m not the one crying in the picture.Dregor Thule wrote:Did you just say you crammed a can of tuna up your asshole?Pedokal wrote:Yeah, you'd be crying too if I crammed my tuna can up YOUR cinnamon ring.noel wrote:This thread is destined for Archives!
Anyone else find it funny that Atokal's avatar features a crying baby?
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that was the coolest thing I have ever read.Deneve wrote:While I do not reccomend this, it is logical and it did work for a friend of mine. A good relationship borders on obsession with the other person, instead of killing his obsession he just replaced it, started up on speed/meth for about 3 months, then dropped that for cigarettes, then took 6 more months to kill cigarettes
Don't do that. Coming from a woman's point of view, there are few things that rate as bigger turn-offs than a bitter man who talks about his ex as psycho because she didn't want him. It is pathetic.noel wrote: Better yet, don't worry about what she thinks because she left you and that proves she's a fucking psycho that's not worth your time.
Stop that. Don't write her anymore. If she writes you, don't ignore her but only answer direct questions that have nothing to do with your past relationship and be civilized about it. Ex:MooZilla wrote:I sent her a letter in the mail saying just saying that its offically over. forever. i told her ...
Answer: Can I drop by to pick up my stuff on Sunday.
Don't Answer: Do you miss me?
If you behave rash or emotionally she'll know you want her back, you will look like a desperate fool who is just trying to get any reaction from the person you care about. You will regret it later. Also, even if she doesn't want to be with you anymore, everyone enjoys the feeling of BEING wanted by someone and they miss it when that person moves on. She will be no exception.
Unless she is totally stupid she'll see this for exactly what it is - a desperate attempt to lash out at her. It will put a bigger wedge between you (and your possible friendship), it will ruin a friendship she has with someone else AND really hurt the person you are using to "get back at her."MooZilla wrote:I might sleep with her friend. She does sorta like me.
My advice? Do what she'll least expect- accept that she doesn't want to be with you and move on. Why the hell would you want to be with someone that doesn't want you right? You deserve to get what you are willing to give in a relationship.
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Yeah she'd never ask if i missed her...She's moved on to this new guy.Lynxe wrote:Don't do that. Coming from a woman's point of view, there are few things that rate as bigger turn-offs than a bitter man who talks about his ex as psycho because she didn't want him. It is pathetic.noel wrote: Better yet, don't worry about what she thinks because she left you and that proves she's a fucking psycho that's not worth your time.
Stop that. Don't write her anymore. If she writes you, don't ignore her but only answer direct questions that have nothing to do with your past relationship and be civilized about it. Ex:MooZilla wrote:I sent her a letter in the mail saying just saying that its offically over. forever. i told her ...
Answer: Can I drop by to pick up my stuff on Sunday.
Don't Answer: Do you miss me?
If you behave rash or emotionally she'll know you want her back, you will look like a desperate fool who is just trying to get any reaction from the person you care about. You will regret it later. Also, even if she doesn't want to be with you anymore, everyone enjoys the feeling of BEING wanted by someone and they miss it when that person moves on. She will be no exception.
Unless she is totally stupid she'll see this for exactly what it is - a desperate attempt to lash out at her. It will put a bigger wedge between you (and your possible friendship), it will ruin a friendship she has with someone else AND really hurt the person you are using to "get back at her."MooZilla wrote:I might sleep with her friend. She does sorta like me.
My advice? Do what she'll least expect- accept that she doesn't want to be with you and move on. Why the hell would you want to be with someone that doesn't want you right? You deserve to get what you are willing to give in a relationship.
I gotta pick my shit up too from her house...Dont wanna talk to her though :-/
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When I was 25 I went through a pretty rough breakup with a girl that I had been seeing for two years. It was pretty serious...no talk of marriage ever...but I treated her like a queen...and I loved her dearly.
She broke up with me...her reasoning...I was "too nice".
I told her that I could be an asshole if she wanted me to. I never got the chance to give it a try. Ultimately she was right. I couldn't be an asshole as far as she was concerned.
Right after it happened I went to my friend Stacey and asked her what the deal was with the "you are too nice" excuse. She gave me a woman's perspective on that line of bs...but she ultimately did explain it all to me. The way I figured it...my ex wanted a rebel without a cause...and I was a rebel without a clue.
My friend Stacey told me to take time for myself...which at the time I thought was just a pud suggestion given to everyone in my situation. But she was right. I took time for myself. I spent time with friends...I came and went as I wanted...I sat there in my boxer shorts on a Sunday afternoon just listening to music all day...and I didn't feel obligated to do anything else if I did not want to.
So, looking back more than 10 years now...and being the old married man that I am today...my advice to you would be to quietly mourn your relationship...but realize that it happened at a much better place and time than if you were married or had children (I've been through one divorce and custody battle...it isn't fun for anyone). You are in school...have some fun. It doesn't mean you have go out partying every night...not all people are into that...I wasn't. But do stuff you like to do...go to the bookstore/movies/weekend camping with friends/stay out as late as you want...sit around in your boxers all day if you want...get back into a hobby or passion that you have done or have always been interested in.
Life is unpredictable....and life is so short...death is so long...treat this as an opportunity and vacation from relational responsibility. You will meet someone else...you will fall in love....it will be good....and you will once again find that relationships are hard work and involve the art of compromise. Until then, take that grief you have for your lost relationship...let it turn to anger at the way she treated you...let that anger subside...grief and anger gone...go forth and enjoy the time you are given.
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She broke up with me...her reasoning...I was "too nice".
I told her that I could be an asshole if she wanted me to. I never got the chance to give it a try. Ultimately she was right. I couldn't be an asshole as far as she was concerned.
Right after it happened I went to my friend Stacey and asked her what the deal was with the "you are too nice" excuse. She gave me a woman's perspective on that line of bs...but she ultimately did explain it all to me. The way I figured it...my ex wanted a rebel without a cause...and I was a rebel without a clue.
My friend Stacey told me to take time for myself...which at the time I thought was just a pud suggestion given to everyone in my situation. But she was right. I took time for myself. I spent time with friends...I came and went as I wanted...I sat there in my boxer shorts on a Sunday afternoon just listening to music all day...and I didn't feel obligated to do anything else if I did not want to.
So, looking back more than 10 years now...and being the old married man that I am today...my advice to you would be to quietly mourn your relationship...but realize that it happened at a much better place and time than if you were married or had children (I've been through one divorce and custody battle...it isn't fun for anyone). You are in school...have some fun. It doesn't mean you have go out partying every night...not all people are into that...I wasn't. But do stuff you like to do...go to the bookstore/movies/weekend camping with friends/stay out as late as you want...sit around in your boxers all day if you want...get back into a hobby or passion that you have done or have always been interested in.
Life is unpredictable....and life is so short...death is so long...treat this as an opportunity and vacation from relational responsibility. You will meet someone else...you will fall in love....it will be good....and you will once again find that relationships are hard work and involve the art of compromise. Until then, take that grief you have for your lost relationship...let it turn to anger at the way she treated you...let that anger subside...grief and anger gone...go forth and enjoy the time you are given.
Regards,
Moon