For Those That Care and Know Us.....

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » September 4, 2003, 9:14 pm

How to put it quickly?

There is a difference between being open, and having a relationship. I am very open and honest, especially on-line. My posts are just my posts, they mean nothing...it's not a means to start an intimate relationship.

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Now back to the concept:

I can understand if they were local, because then you just met them through EQ, and then you built the relationship in person, that's normal. I can see myself doing the same.

But the long distance ones are the ones that I'm curious about. I mean do they see eachother often IRL? It's hard to see myself investing that much effort at the beginning of a relationship.

If not then the relationship was built mainly on-line? I don't really see myself as capable of taking anything further then casual friend on-line.

Then again I know I'm a slow mover and that is why I'm so curious. I look at my friends and they walk into a bar, get a phone number and call them up for a date later that week. I have to meet the girl a few times before I know them enough to want to ask them out. Of course that is problematic, because how do you meet them multiple times without asking them out? heh...ya...it's a bad practice. I don't recommend it.

kyoukan · Post by **kyoukan** » September 4, 2003, 9:44 pm

what the hell

Legenae · Post by **Legenae** » September 4, 2003, 11:59 pm

Pilsburry wrote:How to put it quickly?

There is a difference between being open, and having a relationship. I am very open and honest, especially on-line. My posts are just my posts, they mean nothing...it's not a means to start an intimate relationship.

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Now back to the concept:

I can understand if they were local, because then you just met them through EQ, and then you built the relationship in person, that's normal. I can see myself doing the same.

But the long distance ones are the ones that I'm curious about. I mean do they see eachother often IRL? It's hard to see myself investing that much effort at the beginning of a relationship.

If not then the relationship was built mainly on-line? I don't really see myself as capable of taking anything further then casual friend on-line.

Then again I know I'm a slow mover and that is why I'm so curious. I look at my friends and they walk into a bar, get a phone number and call them up for a date later that week. I have to meet the girl a few times before I know them enough to want to ask them out. Of course that is problematic, because how do you meet them multiple times without asking them out? heh...ya...it's a bad practice. I don't recommend it.

I can't believe I'm going to respond to this but what the hell.

I met my fiance online... in Everquest actually. It is long distance... I live in Sudbury, Ontario... he lives in Anchorage, Alaska. After a couple of years chatting online and on the phone, we met in person. We met out of a common interest (Everquest/gaming), and built upon that. We have similar interests, we want the same out of a relationship, we have the same ideals on how to raise a family, etc etc. I'm currently waiting for my Visa appication to go through so I can move up there (all my stuff is already up there.. I'm just stuck here... waiting).

Long distance/online relationships aren't for everyone, but the are becomming more common. The fact is, the internet is bringing together people who may never have met without it, whether it is through a game, or chat room or online personals.

Mplor · Post by **Mplor** » September 5, 2003, 12:02 am

Pils, you give the worst wedding toasts.

Kelshara · Post by **Kelshara** » September 5, 2003, 1:58 am

And Pils wonders why he is single..

Sylvos · Post by **Sylvos** » September 5, 2003, 2:34 am

well there is always that one guy at a wedding that makes a complete ass out of himself and everyone whispers "God who invited him" and the bride always gets onto the groom for inviting them.
Since that didn't happen at the wedding I guess Pilsbury felt it his obligation to be "that guy", so grats to you and once again GRATS TO MIKE AND ANGELA!
and may you raise little buddha's of your own. (private joke - vegas people should get it =) )

Voronwë · Post by **Voronwë** » September 5, 2003, 2:48 am

lol pils, what a neglected little boy. has to make assinine comments so people will focus on him instead of the true subject of this thread.

grats to the bride and groom.

Tenuvil · Post by **Tenuvil** » September 5, 2003, 3:40 am

Congratulations Adelrune!

/toast

Erolz NTurnet · Post by **Erolz NTurnet** » September 5, 2003, 3:56 am

Grats you two!

Atokal · Post by **Atokal** » September 5, 2003, 4:21 am

Grats you two, been a long time in the making.

Cheers

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » September 5, 2003, 4:51 am

I think you guys misunderstood. I don't mean to question his actions. I merely want to ask him a question....

Legenae did a good post....I understand that totally. I'd have a lot more in common with an EQ player then a random person in a bar. I still can't see myself doing so...

I still have one question for her....same as the the couple that tied the knot (if they were long distance also)...did you meet eachother a lot IRL before you realized where it might be headed? Or did you do most of it on-line?

It's just curiosity....not a criticism.

I hope the orginal poster understands...some of us wonder how this stuff works...and ask legitimate questions. Others try to turn it into the usual flame fest. You make your call on who is more inappropriate.

Valkeria · Post by **Valkeria** » September 5, 2003, 5:25 am

Where ever you find love is truly a miracle and I wish you all the best and the happiest of lives. I live in a small town called Levack in Ontario about 45 mins north of Sudbury and most of my friends I have met have been online then RL and they are still my friends to this day distance etc doesnt always matter. Life is for living be happy

Sargeras · Post by **Sargeras** » September 5, 2003, 9:00 am

GRATZ GUYS W0000T!!!

Tegellan · Post by **Tegellan** » September 5, 2003, 11:49 am

Pils, talk to the hand

Fredonia Coldheart · September 5, 2003, 11:56 am

Congrats!

Adelrune Argenti · Post by **Adelrune Argenti** » September 5, 2003, 12:33 pm

Quick answer to Pils questions.

We met on-line. She originally lived in Michigan and I was in California. However, we played together in groups for a long while and just chatted. At one point, we continued the relationship outside of EQ and began emailing. It was a lot of everyday stuff about jobs, interests etc. We found through chatting we had many common experiences and interests. Phone calls began between us. We ended up meeting when I took a trip out to Michigan. Then we followed up seeing each other at a Fan Faire. By that point, we pretty much knew we clicked and began to plan trips to see each other. That went on for about 9 months or so. Then she made the decision to move west for job, school, and our relationship. We have lived about 8 miles away from each other for about 14 months prior to getting married.

My opinion is that meeting someone online is not for everyone. It does take a lot of effort to keep things going and getting to know someone. However, if you are interested, you make the time to do it. That is what we did. Also, it helped that when we met each other, we just knew what we were to each other. It was like a freight train hitting me. I knew I had to be with her.

Jaxomer · Post by **Jaxomer** » September 5, 2003, 12:36 pm

Very cool Adel, I wish you two the best

Coatlicue [KoE] · Post by **Coatlicue [KoE]** » September 5, 2003, 6:42 pm

Lots of love and well wishes from Cassie & Brian to you two!! For those who don't know Mike & Angela IRL, they're fantastic people.. truly meant for each other

YAY!! Can't wait to see pictures

Ajran · Post by **Ajran** » September 5, 2003, 7:46 pm

Don't really know either of ya. but whatever it takes to find that special someone to spend the rest of your life with. good luck to you both and congratz!

Heavymeat · Post by **Heavymeat** » September 6, 2003, 1:17 pm

Tis the month of old Outrider marriages it seems!

Wish you the best, sir.

"Fuck it Adel, Charge!"

Fesuni Chopsui · Post by **Fesuni Chopsui** » September 6, 2003, 1:26 pm

Congrats you two! Wish you all the best!

PS: Pils, not only does no one really care much for what you have to say..but

Drolgin Steingrinder · September 6, 2003, 7:01 pm

Woah...Meat!

Hi sir!

Aaeamdar · Post by **Aaeamdar** » September 7, 2003, 7:11 am

Grats you two!

Pilsburry · Post by **Pilsburry** » September 7, 2003, 1:59 pm

Adel, thanks for answering my question.

Fesuni and the rest of the people ruining this thread with pointless flames....you should really re-evaluate your life.

CalandraWindrose · Post by **CalandraWindrose** » September 8, 2003, 1:46 pm

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish many years of happiness to you both - you deserve it!

masteen · Post by **masteen** » September 8, 2003, 2:07 pm

Y'all are definitely a fun couple. I had a blast with you two and Waran (char. name, I can't remember his RL name) in CityWalk. MORE SHOTS!!!

Klydon · Post by **Klydon** » September 8, 2003, 3:11 pm

Waran = Derek

masteen · Post by **masteen** » September 8, 2003, 5:32 pm

I swear for the first day I thought his name was Warren. I was very drunk at the time...

Jezdziec Znikad · Post by **Jezdziec Znikad** » September 8, 2003, 11:15 pm

Gratz