VeeshanVault

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

My friends are all my age. VV has a higher, more "mature" average age, so I went here. Plus, people on VV are more acquaintences than friends, so their suggestions are much less likely to be biased.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

Go see a doctor first and get that shit assessed.

http://www.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/sig51596.asp might start giving you some clues.

For the love of god talk to her and don't jump to conclusions. Take it from a married man(in this relationship for 11 years now), Communication is key.

Go see a doctor first and get that shit assessed.

http://www.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/sig51596.asp might start giving you some clues.

For the love of god talk to her and don't jump to conclusions. Take it from a married man(in this relationship for 11 years now), Communication is key.

Go see a doctor first and get that shit assessed.

http://www.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/sig51596.asp might start giving you some clues.

For the love of god talk to her and don't jump to conclusions. Take it from a married man(in this relationship for 11 years now), communication is key.

First of all, go see a doctor first and get that shit assessed.

http://www.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/sig51596.asp should give yuo some interesting reading as well.

Also, talk to her and don't jump to conclusions. Take it from someone who's married(in this relationship for 11 years now), communication is key.

Sirensa wrote:I hope its not herpes!

I hope it is, his experience at Michigan State won't be complete until he contracts some sort of incurable disease.

Re: the main topic of the thread, you're totally jumping the gun on the freaking out. I can understand, and have had my head messed up similarly in the past, but "John" or whatever is just trying to get in your head and succeeding better than he could have hoped.

If they knew each other for two years and have been speaking on the phone lately, there's a pretty good chance that she mentioned something about having a rash, perhaps even that she contracted it from you, and he is just using that as ammunition to get under your skin. If they dated for 2 years and he wasn't pouring the cock to her then, I would be quite surprised if she went back to him because she missed how they held hands together. It's quite a bit more likely that they had some things in common and share a lot of memories and she's having friendship withdrawal like you said somewhere above.

If he knows you read his blog, he also knows that you're a candidate for flying into a jealous rage. You don't like the guy, there's really no other reason for you to even read it. What better way for him to push your buttons that to make an "innocent" blog posting that you'll fly off the handle about. And when you do, he'll have done exactly what he wanted and old-friend "John" will turn into rebound sex "John".

If you really like the girl, give her the benefit of the doubt. The 'facts' (bear with me, I'm assuming truth for the sake of argument) in the situation are that they didn't have a physical relationship in the past, you and she have a healthy relationship and that this guy hates you and knows where he can lay down some bait that you'll have a high likelihood of taking it. It's possible that she's a dirty pirate hooker and she is hooking up with him on the sly even though she hasn't in the past and she just mentioned to you that she wanted to see him again (read: blew her own cover) and in the course of their late-night rendezvous she just happened to give him the rash that she contracted from you. Occam's Razor tells me that's probably not the case though.

Kill the bitch and bury her in one of the endzones of the football field.

Human sacrifice is the only way MSU can hope to win a title next season, so you'll get 2 birds with one stone

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

youre vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here







are you this insecure around her too? cause man that is unsexy as hell. If I was your woman I'd be out to fuck Snake Plisken too, or whatever



but all in all... deep feelings my fuckin' ass, kid. Stop listening to your nugs and get a grip. Dump her and have irresponsible sex with dozens of women or men like a normal fucking teenager.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

youre vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here







are you this insecure around her too? cause man that is unsexy as hell. If I was your woman I'd be out to fuck Snake Plisken too, or whatever



but all in all... deep feelings my fuckin' ass, kid. Stop listening to your nugs and get a grip. Dump her and have irresponsible sex with dozens of women or men like a normal fucking teenager.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

youre vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here







are you this insecure around her too? cause man that is unsexy as hell. If I was your woman I'd be out to fuck Snake Plisken too, or whatever



but all in all... deep feelings my fuckin' ass, kid. Stop listening to your nugs and get a grip. Dump her and have irresponsible sex with dozens of women or men like a normal fucking teenager.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

youre vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here







are you this insecure around her too? cause man that is unsexy as hell. If I was your woman I'd be out to fuck Snake Plisken too, or whatever



but all in all... deep feelings my fuckin' ass, kid. Stop listening to your nugs and get a grip. Dump her and have irresponsible sex with dozens of women or men like a normal fucking teenager.

youre vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here







are you this insecure around her too? cause man that is unsexy as hell. If I was your woman I'd be out to fuck Snake Plisken too, or whatever



but all in all... deep feelings my fuckin' ass, kid. Stop listening to your nugs and get a grip. Dump her and have irresponsible sex with dozens of women or men like a normal fucking teenager.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

youre vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here







are you this insecure around her too? cause man that is unsexy as hell. If I was your woman I'd be out to fuck Snake Plisken too, or whatever



but all in all... deep feelings my fuckin' ass, kid. Stop listening to your nugs and get a grip. Dump her and have irresponsible sex with dozens of women or men like a normal fucking teenager.

play tennis with her

Dear Leonaerd,

It could be worse.
(This should be totally WS everywhere, but I could be wrong)

Your friends at VV.

I have opinions of my friends and opinions of VV frequenters and I decided where I'd rather go for advice.

And if you think for one minute that after two years he was not her first, and you managed to get in there in under three months you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

You know nothing about what has happened in three months, so take your mature knowledge elsewhere. Jesus Christ, I know the difference between a virgin and someone who's been having sex for two years.

I never said for you to cheat, I just said to get even, your mind put cheat in there. Obviously you are not mature enough for a real relationship. Walk away before you hurt yourself.

I misread you, so obviously I'm not mature.

you are dumber than everyone here thinks.

What the fuck, man? (Almost) Everybody is giving me their heartfelt advice. I'd like to think I don't come off as being dumb.

I'm flip-flopping because I don't know what to do. That's why I came here for advice.

Sirensa wrote:I hope its not herpes!

I hope it is, his experience at Michigan State won't be complete until he contracts some sort of incurable disease.

Re: the main topic of the thread, you're totally jumping the gun on the freaking out. I can understand, and have had my head messed up similarly in the past, but "John" or whatever is just trying to get in your head and succeeding better than he could have hoped.

If they knew each other for two years and have been speaking on the phone lately, there's a pretty good chance that she mentioned something about having a rash, perhaps even that she contracted it from you, and he is just using that as ammunition to get under your skin. If they dated for 2 years and he wasn't pouring the cock to her then, I would be quite surprised if she went back to him because she missed how they held hands together. It's quite a bit more likely that they had some things in common and share a lot of memories and she's having friendship withdrawal like you said somewhere above.

If he knows you read his blog, he also knows that you're a candidate for flying into a jealous rage. You don't like the guy, there's really no other reason for you to even read it. What better way for him to push your buttons that to make an "innocent" blog posting that you'll fly off the handle about. And when you do, he'll have done exactly what he wanted and old-friend "John" will turn into rebound sex "John".

If you really like the girl, give her the benefit of the doubt. The 'facts' (bear with me, I'm assuming truth for the sake of argument) in the situation are that they didn't have a physical relationship in the past, you and she have a healthy relationship and that this guy hates you and knows where he can lay down some bait that you'll have a high likelihood of taking it. It's possible that she's a dirty pirate hooker and she is hooking up with him on the sly even though she hasn't in the past and she just mentioned to you that she wanted to see him again (read: blew her own cover) and in the course of their late-night rendezvous she just happened to give him the rash that she contracted from you. Occam's Razor tells me that's probably not the case though.

Xouqoa wrote:

Raistin wrote:Sounds like someone was fucking yours on the side. If you live by the rule
"You're just keeping it warm for the next guy." you will live stress free!

QFT

QFT +1

Leonaerd wrote:FUCK. I don't want to think she's cheating on me. FUCK!

If you even have the doubts. It's done. You cannot have a relationship in which there is even the slightest lack of trust. And besides, let's face it. She might have been the first to cheat on you (just judging by your age, but no offense intended), but she most definately won't be the last. The quicker you learn and accept this, the less time you'll spend beating the shit out of yourself over a woman who dropped you like a bad habit.

Leonaerd wrote:

noel wrote:I think you're 19 years old and you're better off single anyway. All of this added drama is completely unecessary. The fact that you're trolling some dude's livejournal is unecessary. Just based on what you've said, I think it's worth your while to back the fuck away from all of this and keep your dignity.

It sounds so easy on a message board, but it's much tougher when there are deep feelings involved.

There will be plenty others...and each time you'll think you've never loved someone so much. It's amazing how selective your brain is about shit like that.
I've been told that I'm abnormal in this way, but a simple rule to live by...when the shit hits the fan, you have to seperate yourself from the situation and just be logical. Being emotional might feel good in the heat of the moment, but it's damaging, and you won't be happy about it later.

I'm done rambling, I've been in your shoes...I understand how you feel, I wish you luck, and hope you can impart a little knowledge from our past experiences. That's what I try to do anyways.

edit. f'd by the server. doublepost.

Dear Leonaerd,

It could be worse.
(This should be totally WS everywhere, but I could be wrong)

Your friends at VV.

cadalano wrote:you're vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here

Quote of at least the month.

Dear Leonaerd,

It could be worse.
(This should be totally WS everywhere, but I could be wrong)

Your friends at VV.

cadalano wrote:you're vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here

Quote of at least the month.

play tennis with her

Dear Leonaerd,

It could be worse.
(This should be totally WS everywhere, but I could be wrong)

Your friends at VV.

cadalano wrote:you're vomiting out an episode of Dawson's Creek over here

Quote of at least the month.

LOL. The board made this thread even more fun.

Animalor wrote:LOL. The board made this thread even more fun.

That's exactly what I was thinking. Page 2 made me crack up.

Anyway... People have given you advice. I don't get why people ask for advice and then argue against it.

If you're having girl problems, then I feel bad for you son. I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one.

Love what the board did to the thread on page 2....



Basically, if you are bothering to read his LJ, then your relationship with her will not work. You are doing it almost expecting to see shit about the two of them on there. If he knows you are reading it, he might make something up, or he might add the most minor contact he has with her to his journal with as much embellishment as possible.

I didn't read most of page two to see what you posted, but you do not trust her. You just say that you do. Ever see those Lifetime movies about women who get beaten and keep going back? That's you.

Aslanna wrote:Anyway... People have given you advice. I don't get why people ask for advice and then argue against it.

I'd prefer to say that I question it, not argue it. Believe me, this thread has helped my situation immensely. I'd rather weigh my options than make decisions based upon the first opinion I see.

Boogahz wrote:Ever see those Lifetime movies about women who get beaten and keep going back? That's you.

Err. Kay. She actually broke up with Joe because he hit her... pretty hard. He's a nutcase, really.



New turn of events...

He has poison ivy. His biology class went to some watery area and he contracted it. He posted pictures today and it's poison ivy if I've ever seen it. He wasn't baiting me at all.

So I got my panties in a knot over nothing, and she was a bit affronted that I brought the subject up in the first place. But after I explained that I was worried as a result of the tennis comment, all was well.

As for my trust... I was the one in the wrong here. She hasn't seen him in two months, as she said she wouldn't. I should be able to trust her after that, right?

Yes, you should be able to trust her after that. But you've already shown that you can't.

If there is the smallest lack of trust in a relationship. It is inevitably doomed. Unless you can find a way to trust her and forget this bonehead (possible, but not likely) you're going to end up sabotaging it again.

So the question is, are you going to trust her? Or are you going to do it again?

If there is the smallest lack of trust in a relationship. It is inevitably doomed. Unless you can find a way to trust her and forget this bonehead (possible, but not likely) you're going to end up sabotaging it again.

That's what sucks... she's shown she can be trusted. We'll see how it plays out.

So the question is, are you going to trust her? Or are you going to do it again?

I told her to shoot me with a 12-gauge if I do it again. I don't think I will, but time will tell. The butterflies in my stomach are gone for now. We'll see how it plays out.

Leonaerd wrote:

If there is the smallest lack of trust in a relationship. It is inevitably doomed. Unless you can find a way to trust her and forget this bonehead (possible, but not likely) you're going to end up sabotaging it again.

That's what sucks... she's shown she can be trusted. We'll see how it plays out.

Just remember, her showing that she can be trusted is only half of what is needed. The other half is your ability to trust.

I thought my wheelmouse was broken. I kept scrolling and scrolling and kept seeing the same message!

Dump her. Keep your mind occupied with something else for about a month and you'll forget all about her. If that doesn't work. See an occupational hypnotherapist.

I have 3 advices for you:

1. Get out of the high-school state of mind and all the drama that exists in high school.

2. Stop dating girls and start dating women. Anybody stuck in #1 is a girl. Most at 19 are still stuck in #1.

3. Pretty much any issue in a relationship can be worked out if both people are 100% for it. Takes time, effort and work but is possible.