VeeshanVault

I am an 18 year old male. Average guy, fairly good looking, nice (For the most part), still a virgin, 180 pounds 5'11''- Basically your average face in the crowd. I'm also at college in a dorm atm, studying for a degree in Computer Science.

Ok, Here's my dilemma.

I don't really want to have sex. I mean, don't get me wrong - oftentimes, just like with most guys, the first thing I think about when meeting women is what it would be like to fuck them...but I really have no desire to do it - I'm not gay, I'm not taking a vow of abstinence or anything, I don't have low self worth - Im the fucking win - or anything like that...So here's the question:

Is there something wrong with me here?


Edit Note: I'm talking about things wrong with my feelings about sex, not about other issues with me

Wrote this for my site no less then an hour ago. Maybe it'll help?

When I was eight, I saw a gate. I went through the gate and saw my fate. For what I saw was a wall. Over the wall was a hall and down the hall was a mall. But this was no normal mall. This was a special mall for special things. I walked into the mall and met a man. The man introduced himself as the ghost of porn past. When the time was present, I walked and talked to the ghost of porn past in the past. He told me of hairy muffs, stag videos, and magazines that were forbidden to show poon.

I was scared so I ran. I ran and I ran until I met a new man. This man comforted me and was nice. We sat down at "Choi's food are is good" restaurant and had some rice. After the rice, the man rolled some dice. He said "eight would be great, but 4 would be better, for I am the ghost of porn present and I give ye this letter." I read the letter and filled with joy. The letter was great. It could not get better. In the present youll see shaven poon, there will be anal, and 3-somes galore, a guy goes to 7-11 and picks up some whore. I finished the letter and looked up at the man with a smile. But the man was gone without a trace, so I continued my journey into this unknown space.

At the end of the mall I saw a dark room. I walked into the room and saw a bitch on a broom. The bitch and/or witch came to me fast. She said, "hello my pretty. My name is shitty and I'm the bitch and/or witch of porn future. I will give you a vision, a vision of the future of sex." Suddenly my head filled with ungodly things. Nubs, animals, and scat..oh my. Nubs, animals, and scat..oh my. Nubs, animals, and scat..oh my. I ran from the bitch and/or witch. I had seen enough. I couldn't handle it, I was not tough. But I had no idea where to go. How was I to get home?

While running back through the mall, I saw the dice from earlier on. I remember what the ghost of porn present told me. He said, "eight would be great but four would be better." So I rolled and eight and nothing happened. Then I rolled a four and nothing happened. But then I got another thought. He said four, maybe he meant a foursome. So I got all the ghost together and we had a foursome. Then I was magically transported back to my home. My home on elm street.

I am, therefore sparty

much for sparty

Drewno wrote: Is there something wrong with me here?

I don't think there is anything wrong with you. Sex is an act of intimacy you may just not be ready for.

That no desire to do it will change once you do it the first time. Enjoy the blissful ignorance while you have it. Once you get some, your IQ drops 40 points as a general rule as you spend the rest of your life trying to get more.

And before anyone disputes what I have said, the 40 IQ points dropping is a scientific fact.

They sell whores at 7-11?

Right next to the mmmmmmmmmmdonuts.

On topic, think of it like this (I can see the fucking flames a mile away on this one) the first time you have sex (for a guy), it lasts all of two minutes, not including foreplay. So if your holding out for a girl and will want to impress her, do what I did, bag the first one you find and get it out of your system. You wouldn't want the woman of your choice thinking your a minute man. That probably won't get you that other date. (at least not in college)

Drewno wrote:I am an 18 year old male. Average guy, fairly good looking, nice (For the most part), still a virgin, 180 pounds 5'11''- Basically your average face in the crowd. I'm also at college in a dorm atm, studying for a degree in Computer Science.

Ok, Here's my dilemma.

I don't really want to have sex. I mean, don't get me wrong - oftentimes, just like with most guys, the first thing I think about when meeting women is what it would be like to fuck them...but I really have no desire to do it - I'm not gay, I'm not taking a vow of abstinence or anything, I don't have low self worth - Im the fucking win - or anything like that...So here's the question:

Is there something wrong with me here?


Edit Note: I'm talking about things wrong with my feelings about sex, not about other issues with me

I think the answer is pretty clear.

hehe JK Drewon

*smooch*

Before you can be diagnosed, we must know if you masturbate and how. Alone and shamefully in stolen moments? In a drum circle at the city park? Or do you sleep with your elbows pinioned behind your back?

I'm sorry but these facts are vital to divining whether you are disinterested in sex, generally, or just in women. Much depends on the result.

If the former, I wouldn't worry too much. At your age, these things are largely governed by hormones, and one day soon you'll wake up with a fever that won't abate for the next 30 years, except in those few moments right after you actually get some.

If, however, you are a chronic masturbator yet don't like the chickies (or the guys), well, at your age I'd start to get concerned. The hormones are all there, but your natural lusts may be affected by your socialization. That would probably merit talking to someone (certified) about it.

Dr. Mp

I think the honest answer is that there may be something medically wrong with you. The real question is, do you not have a desire to have sex or are you just waiting until you meet the right person?

If you seriously do not have any sexual desire as an 18 year old male, you may have something hormonally wrong. Schedule a routine pyhsical (which you should do anyway) and mention it to your doctor.

its like food, everyone has to eat and everyone wants to have sex

but then when i was a little kid i didnt want to have sex, i wanted to buy action figures and throw toy cars in the pool, but then one day i jacked off and realized that shit was cool, and sex must be badass, so after having sex i realized that shit was badass, and had more of it and like it

just have sex drewon, for that is the meaning of life, after you have it once you will be a horney basterd like everyone else

...porno videos dont give you the right idea, there fake and fucking retarded

but honestly if your 18 and have no desire to have sex, then you may be gay, and just not have realized it yet, guess its just one of those things you have to think about

Well your different from the guys I dated. Most guy friends and guys that I have dated spent 9 months trying to get out and the rest of their life to get back in. I wouldn't say anything is wrong with you. You just have to ask yourself have you met the right woman and then take it from there.

Mplor wrote:Before you can be diagnosed, we must know if you masturbate and how. Alone and shamefully in stolen moments? In a drum circle at the city park? Or do you sleep with your elbows pinioned behind your back?

I'm sorry but these facts are vital to divining whether you are disinterested in sex, generally, or just in women. Much depends on the result.

If the former, I wouldn't worry too much. At your age, these things are largely governed by hormones, and one day soon you'll wake up with a fever that won't abate for the next 30 years, except in those few moments right after you actually get some.

If, however, you are a chronic masturbator yet don't like the chickies (or the guys), well, at your age I'd start to get concerned. The hormones are all there, but your natural lusts may be affected by your socialization. That would probably merit talking to someone (certified) about it.

Dr. Mp

He doesn't masturbate at all.

If you think about fucking fine ass women then you do want to have sex. I think you are in the same boat I was in. Basically, I tried to wait for the right person to come along and make it special for me. I made a bigger deal out of it then it really was. I was a virgin till I was 21 and now looking back on it, I wish I woulda had more sex earlier. My advice is to get laid as soon as possible. Find a little horny girl with mutual attraction and go for it.

oh, and ENJOY!!

Don't think about it so much if it fucks with yer head. Have fun, go to parties, enjoy. You are 18. Fucking 18!! 18 is money. Relax and go with it. Ain't nothing to it. You find yourself with a lil lady from the Sorority? Go down on her James Bond style and make sure her cute girlfriends are watching.

That is the key. You see, when they are watching, they will get all hot too, and start to experiment, Dru Berrimore style--and that is a good thing. Now, you have 3 hot little just-legal sorority chicks all ready for action. Here, my friend, is where you tap that ass.

In summary:

Don't be shy, get her to multiply
Have her on her knees. This is where she will please
Get involved with her friends. This is where is all begins
She will like it. If she has a drink, there is no need to spike it
Get on with that.
Tap that ass.


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shit, been listening to Sparty for too long, and poorly

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I think its time for a Brittney poem...

Bitch betta have my money, through rain, through sleet, through snow. Ho betta have my money, not half, not some but all my dough. Cus if trick dont have my money, ima break my foot off dead in her ass!

biatch

but honestly if your 18 and have no desire to have sex, then you may be gay, and just not have realized it yet, guess its just one of those things you have to think about

That statement holds no logic.

Do you whack off? Do you have sexual urges?

If the answers to both of these questions is "no," then you might have low testosterone. Go to see the doctor, as this can cause problems. If you have sexual urges, but aren't jerking, you need to start. Occasional ejaculation is necessary to maintain prostate health in post-pubescent males.

Now if you answered yes to both of the above, I'd say don't worry about it. You'll get seduced by some hot coed on, say, your birthday. She'll take you up to her room "to study," and you will learn things... sweet, sweet naked things...

You're saying that gay people dont have a sex drive?

I lost my virginity shortly before my 18th birthday... I was not blessed with having one of the best experiences in the world, for reasons I will not go into here. Up until that point, I was a sex craving maniac.. and where I am still a sex craving maniac (living with your fiancee who is still a virgin and wishes to remain that way till marriage can and will do that to a person) it's about half as much wanting sex as it is wanting absolution for a bad experience.

So.. don't rush into it. If you're not actively wanting to tap that ass right now, that doesn't mean all that much.. the above questions do apply, but it's OK not to be looking for sex contantly at 18.

well if you dont jack off or have sex you should be having wet dreams i would imagin
that shit needs to get out of you one way or the other

Great, some of you guys are instilling doubt on Drewon. Hehehhe. Seriously, Drewon, go out enjoy your youth, go have some. Hooooo!


Everybody want some...I want some too.

Drakoslay

If you don't whack off at 18 and you don't have sex, then I would say something is wrong......at 10 and shit I was thinking about sex. Every guy I knew was thinking about sex by 14.

Guys jut have a strong urge to have sex especially at your age. If it's absent....well I'm not saying it's a horrible thing, but it is definately abnormal.

Now if you are whacking off....more then once a year or some shit...then I'd say your functioning normally, physically but there is something mentally preventing your desire to manifest.

Maybe it's fear you will end up with a kid, or AIDS etc and you don't want the responsibility, maybe your afraid you have a small penis, maybe your actually gay, maybe you feel it's too much work to hunt down girls, maybe girls have driven you crazy in the past.....but if you whack off and you don't think about women you defenately have a minor mental issue. If you don't even whack off...then it might be chemical. Either way there is an issue....just not a big one....it's ok to not have sex or care about it...shit I wish I didn't care about it.

And I agree with the others, once you have it....it's all you think about, so maybe it's a good thing.

I have a problem of my own, I was real shy in the past, then I got fed up with the whole girl shit (stupid fights, lies, etc...) took myself off the market for a VERY long time. Now during that time I have gotten over my shyness some (With OMGIAMRETARDEDCAUSEALOTISTWOWORDS of effort on my part) but I still can't ask a girl out properly, I get all nervous and they smell weakness a mile away...I can ask a girl out who is considered below me by my friends...a girl who has low self image, and tells me she is incredibly horny...and yet still not get a date...although we get along great as friends...whenever I try and bump it up a notch I get all awkward. I run out of shit to say...I talk in circles..its just retarded..it's like back when I was 7 yrs old and I couldn't ask my friends to come out and play so I would have my brother do it for me....I thought I was over this shit. I'm almost 30 damn it....I know the worst they could do is say "no" actually the worst they can say is "let me think about it" or "maybe" IMHO because then I waste time dealing with them...when the real answer is probably "no". So why do I choke up? And why can't I approach any cute girl at the bar and ask for her number? I watch my friends do it...granted they don't always succeed, but they can do it without puking on thier shoes.

Well, if you are waiting to have sex until you are married, your life won't change much after the wedding. If you weren't getting any before and were content with that then marriage should be your thing.

Bringing this kind of question to the boards here is akin to a seriously loud cry for help. Sparty tried to save you by the attempted hijack but it wasn't enough. Stick with the Cyber because it is the safest way for you to go. Nothing says loving like your own hand.

That was a beautiful poem Flyguy

You sound like a genius named Morrissey. He just didnt care for sex, period.

Your passion may not be what most 18 yr old guys want, "the cookie".
Maybe your interests expand beyond, "the cookie". It's certainly rare, but I have known men when I was in college that just didnt have time for chasing tail because of a passion for they're studies, we called them hermits, dorks, nerds, etc,...but in retrospect, they were geniuses.

Einstein, A. Nobel, Bill Gates, etc etc, probably weren't out chasing tail either at 18. So dont worry about it and just be you.

well many "nerds" want sex, but they dont know how to get it
at least thats what i understood from the revenge of the nerds movie!

but if you play this entire i dont think i want to have sex deal, i prefer people for who they are, the bitches will fall for that shit, try it out for a couple hours and after some complements and some vodka i bet you could hit that shit easy!

Whenever my sex drive needs a boost, I think of lyrics to terrible pop songs. Why? Because it makes me think of all the hot, underage girls who dig that kind of music.

"Let's do it again, mommy
You and a friend, mommy
Money ain't a thing, mommy
But I gotta' spend, mommy"

it's all about viagra and corn-starch

It could be a case of reverse psychology at work here. You pretend you don't want sex so then everyone wants to do you. "Oh poor boy, you don't want sex? I bet I can change your mind". (cue in Boom chicka boom boom boom) Hell, it is working so well that I bet half the mangina on this board wants to stick it to you.

Akaran_D wrote:I lost my virginity shortly before my 18th birthday... I was not blessed with having one of the best experiences in the world, for reasons I will not go into here.

Did she laugh at your tiny dick?

No Karae, I do not have a "tiny dick". Whatever your shortcommings may be, that is not one of mine. I still respect her as a person, so I will not comment further on public messageboards.

So defensive...

shanks has a huge penix~

whatever the case may be, the advice you'll get here is just about the worst you'll find anywhere (as evidenced by the advice you've gotten here).

Drew-
You should give more information. If you're confident enought to post for advice here, I'm sure a lil' more info. wouldn't hurt

Have you had/do you have a girlfriend now?
Have you/do you/did you 'fool around'?
If 'Yes', and 'Yes' - Did you still have no 'urge' or any lack of interest.
It could very well be your girlfriend killing your thought's of 'nookie', or you may need to get a girlfriend to better your chances of wanting to 'hit it'
In any case, I don't think anything is wrong with you. Keeping in mind you're a student and a rabid EQ player, I can see where thinking of 'tang' just isn't fitting in your lifestyle.

Ragardless, if it isn't hurting anything - keep doing what you are now. You seem to have a good future ahead of you with or without a sex drive. If it really is upsetting you, talk to your physician or something.

It could be a medical problem, but at your age, I really wouldn't think you have low testosterone , some sexual dysfunction/disorder, horomone imbalance etc.

For the record, most women don't buy the virgin-line, it's pretty old now.
My friend used the gay line (he was hot) - worked every time, he'd taunt women until they would throw themselves at him trying to 'turn him straight', which he was already..lol

Anyways, if you're happy, don't stress yourself over it.

to a close friend, or seek a therapist if your really worried about it.

its something that people are ready for at different ages. some start later then others.

Some people just don't like/crave sex. You may be diverting from the norm, but as long as it dosen't really bother you, then no harm done. The problems you face may very well be future relationships. It's hard to find a partner that would understand your asexual nature. At the end of the day, these types of situations usually work themselves out.

However, if it does bother you beyond merely wondering, then I suggest seeking a professional opinion.

I wouldn't worry. Just don't think about it....go party and enjoy your youth. When you least expect it some ugly bitch will pick you up at a party and give it to you. If you look for it then it won't happen. I didn't find my wife till I got sick of looking for sex and decided to just have fun.

Deward

I wouldn't worry. Just don't think about it....go party and enjoy your youth. When you least expect it some ugly bitch will pick you up at a party and give it to you. If you look for it then it won't happen. I didn't find my wife till I got sick of looking for sex and decided to just have fun.

Deward, you basically just said that your wife is an ugly bitch that picked you up at a party. Might want to rephrase that

Akaran_D wrote:I am still a sex craving maniac (living with your fiancee who is still a virgin and wishes to remain that way till marriage can and will do that to a person)

None of my business, so ignore my advice if you like, but I really think you should re-think this. Not knowing if you're sexually compatible prior to getting married can lead to a very stressed marriage.

Akaran_D wrote:I was a sex craving maniac.. and where I am still a sex craving maniac (living with your fiancee who is still a virgin and wishes to remain that way till marriage can and will do that to a person) it's about half as much wanting sex as it is wanting absolution for a bad experience.

Does she atleast let you do anal?

Millie wrote:"Let's do it again, mommy
You and a friend, mommy
Money ain't a thing, mommy
But I gotta' spend, mommy"

Soooo hot. Can you play Dave Matthews songs now plz????

Sunserae wrote:

Millie wrote:"Let's do it again, mommy
You and a friend, mommy
Money ain't a thing, mommy
But I gotta' spend, mommy"

Soooo hot. Can you play Dave Matthews songs now plz????

I'm so glad I can't place those lyrics. I am 100% MTV-free.

The urge to gratify sexual impulses is natural and part of our basic instincts. Not wanting to have sex with a woman isn't necessarily a concern but if you don't feel sexual urges at all (sheep, masterbation, etc) then I'd say there might be a problem.

What's the term im looking for...maintenance sex or something like that. Some may jerk off simply to keep things functioning properly. Personally, I think that would suck but if you don't desire women, you might also save yourself untold hours of wasted time thinking about and working to fulfill your sexual needs with a female that requires mysterious mating rituals before getting the 30 seconds of relief that you actually want.

Bottom line is if you don't feel the urge to "hit it", you've got to take care of your plumbing another way as Masteen mentioned earlier.

Pilsburry wrote:So why do I choke up? And why can't I approach any cute girl at the bar and ask for her number? I watch my friends do it...granted they don't always succeed, but they can do it without puking on thier shoes.

Practice - your confidence levels will boost in time.

Totally natural bro.
When I was 19 I moved away from Colorado and having sex at least everday for 2 years to California and abstaining for 3 years.
It was just that sex is really kind of trivial, and unfufilling unless I engade in it with someone I love.
Love is like Cake, and sex is the icing.
If you eat icing by itself, sure it is OK, but quickly becomes nasty and makes you want to puke if you eat too much of it without Cake.

And on that subject:
Cake>Pie

This whole thread makes me want to VOMIT, carry on~